People that do parenting do not realize how much of a responsibility this very common experience really is. It is a giant responsibility since this person you are caring for needs you for all that they do. Not only that, but you’re making a contribution to the society in which you live. And that can have many outcomes, as you know, so naturally you want to do the best thing. Your goal is to make sure your children become upstanding citizens, responsible adults that can care for themselves. You can get this done by doing several different things, all of which will help you accomplish this goal.
Adult children are being forced to live at home because of the economies in all countries, and that isn’t a secret. This presents challenges and pressures on everyone in the household. But for your adult children, this can be very difficult for a host of reasons. Finding employment could be tough if your child has graduated from college. Since they know that this situation is not expected, the emotional toll could be huge. Any time a person has his or her worth questioned, feelings of depression can be produced. Supporting your child is the best thing you can do, along with actively helping with the job search. Remember than an interview can be ruined by powerful negative emotions.
Remaining positive and proactive is the type of attitude you need to help your adult child have. The rules need to be firm, but also fair as you are raising your young children. You need to continue to maintain the rules even when they become teenagers. They may go kicking and yelling, but the rules need to be there for teens. You can make this a little easier, maybe, if you remind them of what they can expect before they hit the teen years. You will be greatly tested by your new teenager, but giving in is not an option. Life is scary when there is no order or sense of security, and that is a problem many teenagers face every day. There aren’t many ways for them to get it, so you better work on yourself and the environment of your home.
As you child matures and enters into their teen years, make it a priority to include him or her in family discussions. There are times when the topic may be inappropriate for your child. You, as the parent, must make that decision and decide when it would be appropriate to have the older children sit in on the discussion and give their input. The reason this can be a positive is it signals that you realize your teen is becoming an adult. It will also impart onto the teen a sense of responsibility towards the family unit as a whole. In addition to inviting them to sit in, ask your child to provide input in the form of opinion, etc. When you see how positively your teenager reacts to being included in family discussions, you may be pleasantly surprised.
It’s frustrating when our kids come out with something that just trumps us. Kids can outsmart you from time to time, which can be very frustrating. It is very humbling when you have this happen, yet irritating at the same time.
All this means is that your children are thinking, so don’t get upset when these things occur.